It's the moment you
have (probably) been looking forward to for years.
It's the moment when
your adult child tells you, "mum, you're going to be a grandparent."
While the news will
remind you that you are not getting any younger, you should (despite the
reminder of time) be excited and joyful about the impending new arrival into
your family.
But when your
grandchild arrives, what should you do to support your adult child? And perhaps
more importantly, what shouldn't you do?
You should offer your
child as much support as they need. You know the joys and challenges of raising
a newborn, so you should have plenty of experience from which your child can draw
from. Offer them advice when called upon, and if you see your child struggling
in any way, gently offer a few suggestions.
But don't go
overboard with the advice. You may have some excellent ideas, but if your child wants to do things
their way (provided they are being safe and sensible), let them. You don't want
to come across as an interfering parent yourself, so try and gauge when you
should speak, and when you should lie low for a while. We have been doing a lot of this lying low in the last few weeks.
You should support
your child financially when possible. With the birth of a new baby comes a wide range of expenses, so if you
are financially able, give your support. Your child should be able to purchase
the basics themselves, so you might be able to give your grandchild something
extra special, such as this luxury nursery furniture, or even something to go into a child
savings account.
But talk to your
child before you make any spending decisions. You don't want to duplicate any items
that may have already been received at the baby shower, and you don't want to
buy items such as clothes or baby furniture that are against the tastes of your
child. You naturally want to help, but a quick conversation will ensure you
don't waste your money.
You should offer your
babysitting services to your soon-to-be exhausted child. They will need time off occasionally,
and you may be the best person for the job. Offer your time when your child
wants to get out of the house for some me-time and offer to have
your grandchild overnight when your child needs to catch up on their sleep. Offer your time to
help around the house too, supporting your child with any parenting duties,
especially when their partner is at work.
But don't overdo it
with the help. There will be times when you want to see your grandchild, so an offer
of help might seem like the perfect excuse to visit. Your child might be
grateful to you, but you don't want to make them feel as if they can't cope
themselves, so limit the help you give. They will need their space with the
baby too, so they may not want you around 24/7, no matter how helpful you are trying
to be.
We hope these tips
have been helpful, but if you're a grandparent already, please share any advice
you have for any other grandparents-to-be. Thanks for reading, and if you are
expecting your first grandchild, we wish you every joy and happiness with the
new little bundle of joy in your life.
This is a collaborative post.
This is a collaborative post.
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